Tuesday, March 31, 2009
At the End of my Rope!
I know I probably am asking for it and probably shouldn't do this. But, there are people who read this blog daily that I value their opinion and need some help. Alex is just totally out of control. He talks ugly to people and I don't know what to do. I am tired at the end of the every day just dealing with him. He's not a mean kid, he just talks mean. He is so loving, when he wants to be. He told his Sunday School teacher that he was going to give her a spanking! It doesn't matter how many times I put him in time out or pop his bottom. I am just not used to this. Brianna is such a good mannered kid. I know, I know, we are not supposed to compare kids, but we all do it and I have nothing else to go on. It is starting to make me feel like a bad mom that I can't control him. I have been struggling with this for a couple of months and now, I am asking for help. I can't do this alone. Any advice or suggestions are greatly appreciated.
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Steph -try getting the book 1,2,3 Magic. It gives some simple techniques - some you may use, some maybe not. But the key it stresses is consistancy in discipline and staying calm while disciplining (which can be very hard). I have a friend who used it with her 5 year old and it did wonders, I used it with Tyler and it worked - but again - sometimes I fall off the wagon and don't use the techniques :-)
Hugs and lots of love is about all I know! Being a Mom can be very exhausting!!!!
You could try a reward chart..I've done that before and it worked well. I used a huge posterboard and made columns with what I wanted/expected and they got stickers when the acted the way they were supposed to..after so many stickers we went to the dollar store and picked something out. You might could have several times a day when he could get a sticker if he hadn't talked ugly..like lunch, dinner, bedtime...just to break it up and have quicker rewards..so that one slip didn't ruined the whole day. I don't know it's tough...Elyse was so even tempered and then came Layna, I swear I can't remember when she didn't pitch a fit...she great for other people but for me if things don't go her way whining pitching a fit the whole thing...and I don't give in, so you would think she would be over it by now, some days I'm ready to pull my hair out by bedtime.
I do have a book New Kid by Friday that I can bring you Friday night..its a great book and quick to read..you do something every day of the week...its been a while since I read it, I probably need to reread it myself...it is so tough to be consistent all the time...Parenting is a challenge and its seems like once you conquer one thing something else comes up! Its a good thing they are so cute and loveable most of the time!
Amy
I agree with Amy Steph - New Kid by Friday went through our Rock Group in storm fashion ... kids afraid they were being traded in for a new kid on Friday and everything. Should help and keep asking questions - we have all been in there at some point. Hang in there.... its all in a season of time.
Lon
Hang in there Steph...and when you have it figured out, let me know so I can try it on Allison! I think consistency no matter what is the most important thing! Praying for your patience...you can do it!
Shannon
Steph ~ Kyle was a pretty good kid, so not sure if I have any great advice to offer. I think that good behavior can be rewarded, like Amy said. Then Alex will see that "good is good", and will try harder. I love the sticker idea, or a marble jar. Kyle's teacher's did that in K and 1st grade. They got a marble for good behavior, good words, good decisions, but also lost a marble if they messed up. When their marble jar was full - they went to the treasure box. "Treasure Box" is a good motivator. When Kyle was in early years in school, and did not want to read, we used the TB as a motivator...! It worked. Hang in there Steph. You're doing a great job with both Bri and Alex.
Love ya,
Carol
BTW - The marble jar was a 'baby food' size jar, not a Mason Jar...that would be tough...!
Carol
Hang in there - you all will work this out and then one day he'll grow up and have a child just like himself! It's wonderful how that works. You were not a 'mean talker' so you've inherited a problem that we did not have with you or Sonya. Some of it maybe his age and some of it could be that you've just not found the right motivator for him yet. Maybe the gypsies will come through Concord soon.
Hang in there - parenting is tough but then they grow up and leave home and you miss them.
Love,
MOM
Momma, if gypsies do come through Concord my kids will be scared to DEATH. They will think I am going to sale them.
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